The statement many people want to hear for the sake of their ego's. While some of us (I am one of this breed) dread having someone say or intone that they are not over me..... But what about when you are with friends or loved ones who are just not over that "you" in their lives? Who are just to worn thin from the experience of that person, that they just cannot "get over" whoever it was that was so significant. What do you do when you are with someone who is clearly not over someone else, and you want to move forward with them? When they say one thing, but subconsciously speak and act another?
Wouldnt it be nice if there was a litmus test - like those acid test papers we experimented with in highschool. "If it goes purple..." you can move on and begin dating again. While any other colour... whoa Nelly! I make light.... but it is something on my mind. There are so many theories out there post-marital break up. A month for every year is a common one. Humh. My thought? It depends on how you have processed things. Have you learned, grown, taken away what needed to be heard?
As my energy becomes more at ease within me, I am better able to just let things go and recognize their value but let it go nonetheless. I see my weakness, and know why my actions produce certain results. What I find most difficult is seeing something so obvious, a lesson dead centre, and not saying anything to whom it pertains. All day today I felt something on the tip of my tongue and wrestled with whether to say anything or not. In the end, I opted for not. So hard to know if saying something would have pushed someone towards something too painful... I saw the "still not over you" in action. Saying nothing was hard, but I think correct. If it is to go nowhere.... so be it. I will not struggle with the "still not over you" when he is gone. I will accept it and move forward.
