So as you probably can tell if you look at the dates on the other posts, I have been MIA for a while. Why you ask? Struggling to keep my head above water with work, kids, relationships... you know, LIFE BALANCE!
From the melee, I have learned a few things. One of them is that when life spins and gets busier and busier, I lose touch with myself. The more I lose touch with that inner me, the less I notice those synchronicities and it is increasingly difficult to access my creativity. I had a chance to get away for 2 days, and it was a real decompression. As I drove home I found myself thinking MY OWN thoughts and not those of work, kids or relationship. Oh it felt good. So now, how do I ensure I am not losing touch? I am figuring out THIS IS WHY PEOPLE MEDITATE!! AH HAH!
While away from the blog, I visited friends and read their books. One rather good and thought provoking one was "The Rules of Life" by Richard Templar. None of them were original, many of them were the kind of rules old fashioned mother's drilled into them. One that really struck me is "TOUCH BASE OFTEN". Base being the place where you feel loved, secure, safe and connected. Where you were before you got 'lost'. What struck me was that many of the identified bases were family related or childhood related. What about us who struggle with family relationships? Whose childhoods were less than stellar? What is the base? After thinking, ruminating and jotting notes it hit me. Touching base to me means remembering what I really do believe counts. Letting the quiet in. Being still and listening to that inner voice. For me "base" as a teen to adult has been a struggle. It has never been permanent-- always a transient thing. I feel almost proud to recognize I have evolved enough and accepted myself (which doesnt mean being resigned to what I am but accepting that I can always do better) to a point where I can understand my own role in my own choices and happiness.
Some I like and resonated:
Know what counts and what doesn’t. There are some things in this life that is important and a whole lot of things that aren’t
Dedicate your life to something. A yardstick to measure How and what I am doing and where I am going
It’s ok to feel big emotions
Staying young is trying out new tastes, new places to go, new styles
Only the good feel guilty
If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all
Prune your 'stuff' regularly
You are not in charge
Change what you can change, let go of the rest. Dedicate yourself personally to things you can change, areas where you can make a difference.
Aim to be the very best at everything you do, not the second best. Failing is fine. Aiming for the second best isn’t.
Know when to let go, when to walk away.
Maintain good manners in all things
www.antinomian.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/rules-of-life-by-richard-templar/
