I have stumbled across many things in my lifetime. People, places, information... and often thought that it was odd how timely it was. Carl Jung was the one to term these seemingly unrelated occurrences (i.e. going out to pick something specific up at a store, and looking up and seeing a friend you had not seen in 10yrs but had thought of just that week... my personal example) SYNCHRONICITY.
It means all that happens occurs as the wheels of time turn, and coincide... we draw into our life people and things according to the energy we put out. There is even some scientific research into this. Those that follow this in a religious sense, say that if you watch how you travel through your life, keep perspective on it, you vibrate at a higher level. Synchronicities then cycle more frequently. You have to look more at the pattern, less on the specific event. Our soul constantly is preparing us for new experiences. Jung is incredibly specific and classifies the types of synchronistic events that can occur. Implicit in Jung's concept of synchronicity is the belief in the ultimate "oneness" of the universe. As Jung expressed it, such phenomenon betrays a "peculiar interdependence of objective elements among themselves as well as with the subjective (psychic) states of the observer or observers."
We are all interconnected in our own journeys, each supporting each other's growth and change if we are open to it. Or so Jung believed. I too believe. This thought supports my belief that good and bad things are not punishments/rewards for behaviour or choices. They merely are. We choose how to interact with our experiences. I think of illness. How awful terminal illness can be. I think of my experiences with my Mum's invasive cancer. And it is not the losses and negatives I dwell on. But the beauty she chose in how she dealt with it. The cancer support group she started. The emotional reconnect that occurred in our family. The people she touched. How much I learned about cancer, treatments, medicine and an appreciation for end of life care and pain management. That I do not fear death or see it as horrific, but instead an an end to something that had a beginning.
I guess we need to look less at WHY things happen, and accept that they are here and choose the place they will take in our lives. I have thought a lot lately about the place of illness in humanity.... illness beyond the scientific. How life could possibly mean to make people have kids who are sick. Or die. Or even in my case, have given me a premature baby that in turn affected so much havoc in my life. But when I still my mind, I too can say it all resulted in patterns and experiences with people. I used my tools of research to calm my own fears and in turn reassured others. I was able to support my own child and get the services he needed. I took a different route work wise, and learned about autism. My own child priming me to better appreciate the emotional weight of things no medecine can make go away.
There is a pattern in my life. It circles, weaves and bobs. There is no straight line. I am always rounding a corner so perhaps this is why I feel like I am always making choices in the short term. Perhaps. There are a pattern of people. People I have changed, others who have changed me. Some who have truly seen me, others who only see my shell. Through everything I am deepening my connection with myself and learning the hard lessons and taking what I must from them. I am learning that no matter what, the intensity of concern and care I have for others need not be a bad thing. It just is. Others may not get how I can care so deeply, or see so much potential in others.... but I do. It is me. And it is a driving force of the synchronicity in my life.
May my heart and care wrap around all those in my life like a swaddling blanket. Knowing that no matter what, when you turn to me I will still be there.
