And this post is about the beauty of words. Words that reveal the soul of a person or touch your own with impact. A friend said to me that they are seeking to be a better person. To find truth and what it is that they need. To no longer have sex with people they are not in love with as when they do it they feel like they give away another small piece of who they are.
When I read this, I paused. Then I felt teary. Yes, I understand. When we just have sex-- it can be so physically satisfying and sometimes that is enough. Yet when what we really want is that connection and to feel love, acceptance and to be seen.... we end up giving a part of ourselves away instead of being empowered. Love is not sex. Sex is not love. Yet, sex can be done with love. Sadly, love cannot be created with sex. What I realized was that each of us needs to be so cognizant of what it is we really want. There is no shame in wanting something simple like physical satisfaction. There is no shame in admitting that you are a person who needs someone in their life to feel complete. We are each unique.
What is sad is when people chase one, or the other, or anything with the hopes that someone or something else will fill the space. My friend's honesty with me struck me so profoundly. I replied that "all anyone really wants is for someone to see beyond the veneer. To see the deeper 'us' and in seeing that person, we are bared. That someone will love us at our best, or worst. But more than that, that we feel completely understood and able to have that other person see the ME and not the person that they WANT to see...."
And I believe each of us can find this. Sometime. Perhaps we may only have that person for a short short time. I think I may have had my person like that some time ago, and at times fear I never will again feel that safety. Perhaps, perhaps not. I cannot dwell. Instead, I think just being provoked to recognize I still carry this person so closely to my heart, by the beautiful words given to me by my friend was such a gift.
Word are wonderful. Powerful. They can wound, they can heal. They can comfort. Some things are better left unsaid, I believe. Yet sometimes, we have to say the difficult to move beyond. Incredible beauty can be outlined with words, illuminating all the wonders that surround us.