Nothing is really that revolutionary or new. Someone else has probably already said it, done it or thought it far better than you. Age has taught me, don't bother re-inventing the wheel unless the re-invention is really really fun. I am one of those people who likes quotes and the thoughts that simple words strung together can provoke. Here are a few that struck me today....
“If I never met you, I wouldn't like you. If I didn't like you, I wouldn't love you. If I didn't love you, I wouldn't miss you. But I did, I do, and I will.”
The manager accepts the status quo; the leader challenges it.
- Warren Bennis
Most people can look back over the years and identify a time and place at which their lives changed significantly. Whether by accident or design, these are the moments when, because of a readiness within us and a collaboration with events occurring around us, we are forced to seriously reappraise ourselves and the conditions under which we live and to make certain choices that will affect the rest of our lives.
- Frederick F. Flack
Few is the number who think with their own minds and feel with their own hearts.
- Albert Einstein
It is these quotes that spoke to me today. Their words making me smile, or sigh, or nod. I see myself in these words. What words speak for you?
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Welcome to the Rest of your Life!
I feel like there should be someone saying Welcome! This is the rest of your life! Step over the threshold and move forward... Do I dare believe it is true? It is. Here I am. At a desk, a physical space proof of a new position. One that takes each of my past experiences to have gotten me here, where I now sit.
It seems surreal to reach a goal you have set to achieve. Mine was to reach a certain position and here I am. The best part is that goal is not an end, but instead is a beginning. It is the opening of possibilities.... a whole world of learning through hands on doing!
This morning I walked the grounds of the facility I now "run" or "head up" and felt like my feet were firmly connected to the soil. As I read up on the founder I feel a great affinity with her, admiration for her accomplishments and drive to better the lives of those around not just around her, but around the world. A hugely successful woman when women did not do what she did. And yet, a woman descended from an original settler of this very area. Such inspiration!
So... here I am. I tell myself welcome! This is your life. Make it good. With this job I feel no need to justify that "if I do this job it will lead me here or there". Instead I feel like I can just be in and of the moment. Planning for today and building a future within this organization. Hands on. Up to my elbows.
Delicious.
It seems surreal to reach a goal you have set to achieve. Mine was to reach a certain position and here I am. The best part is that goal is not an end, but instead is a beginning. It is the opening of possibilities.... a whole world of learning through hands on doing!
This morning I walked the grounds of the facility I now "run" or "head up" and felt like my feet were firmly connected to the soil. As I read up on the founder I feel a great affinity with her, admiration for her accomplishments and drive to better the lives of those around not just around her, but around the world. A hugely successful woman when women did not do what she did. And yet, a woman descended from an original settler of this very area. Such inspiration!
So... here I am. I tell myself welcome! This is your life. Make it good. With this job I feel no need to justify that "if I do this job it will lead me here or there". Instead I feel like I can just be in and of the moment. Planning for today and building a future within this organization. Hands on. Up to my elbows.
Delicious.
Wednesday, June 16, 2010
Challenges of Intimacy
If you thought my ponderings on intimacy were going to be sexual... think on! Sure, it goes there eventually but I am not going there this time! LOL!
What is it? As said by the almighty Wickipedia it is a relationship that is characterized by "enduring behavioral interdependence, repeated interactions, emotional attachment, and need fulfillment". It is that something intense, truly connected where you can be wholly yourself.
Simple right? I started thinking about this and wondered what is it that makes intimacy so damn hard? For me... it rests largely on the concept of 'enduring behavioural interdependance'. I don't do this well. Independent to the core, I hesitate to ask for help though I will be the first to offer it to others. As someone who has long felt let down and dissapointed by people I supposedly shared an intimate emotional relationship with, I struggle. The visual that suits me is a little girl trapped inside an adult body. I have the smarts and skills and analytical ability of an adult, yet, that little girl reaches as squashes the well thought out processes of that adult from time to time. It is that little girl who refuses to give up her independance because hey! You do that and you are just asking to get screwed right?? For me this becomes embodied in me being overly capable. Capable of being good Mummy, outwardly good wife, good community citizen, good human being... for the most part. The adult accepts that I do the best I can in each of my roles, the child inside says I am bad and suck. Honesty of children perhaps.
So. Where does that leave me? Today it finds me looking to turn a corner and work on letting intimacy happen. If I can let others in in that way, perhaps things I am missing will come to me. If I can think I am capable of unmasking and letting myself be worthy of love and intimacy maybe it will be so...
The thoughts you think becomes your words
The words you say become your actions
The actions you take become your character
The character you present becomes your future.
I feel strongly that the positive thoughts about my professional abilities allowed my words and actions to create my professional self that my new employer has taken on and allowed me the pleasure to shape my future.
My wish, my dream, my hope? That I can work on the personal intimacy I struggle with. Make it possible so that I can have good relationships with whoever my partner is. Perhaps it is my recognizing my own deficiency that has made me think I am just not meant to be married. But perhaps this is a self defeating thought, and by stopping this thought I am stopping the future being unmarried. If I think positive and I still have unfavourable outcome, at least I will know it is not due to road blocks I created.
What is it? As said by the almighty Wickipedia it is a relationship that is characterized by "enduring behavioral interdependence, repeated interactions, emotional attachment, and need fulfillment". It is that something intense, truly connected where you can be wholly yourself.
Simple right? I started thinking about this and wondered what is it that makes intimacy so damn hard? For me... it rests largely on the concept of 'enduring behavioural interdependance'. I don't do this well. Independent to the core, I hesitate to ask for help though I will be the first to offer it to others. As someone who has long felt let down and dissapointed by people I supposedly shared an intimate emotional relationship with, I struggle. The visual that suits me is a little girl trapped inside an adult body. I have the smarts and skills and analytical ability of an adult, yet, that little girl reaches as squashes the well thought out processes of that adult from time to time. It is that little girl who refuses to give up her independance because hey! You do that and you are just asking to get screwed right?? For me this becomes embodied in me being overly capable. Capable of being good Mummy, outwardly good wife, good community citizen, good human being... for the most part. The adult accepts that I do the best I can in each of my roles, the child inside says I am bad and suck. Honesty of children perhaps.
So. Where does that leave me? Today it finds me looking to turn a corner and work on letting intimacy happen. If I can let others in in that way, perhaps things I am missing will come to me. If I can think I am capable of unmasking and letting myself be worthy of love and intimacy maybe it will be so...
The thoughts you think becomes your words
The words you say become your actions
The actions you take become your character
The character you present becomes your future.
I feel strongly that the positive thoughts about my professional abilities allowed my words and actions to create my professional self that my new employer has taken on and allowed me the pleasure to shape my future.
My wish, my dream, my hope? That I can work on the personal intimacy I struggle with. Make it possible so that I can have good relationships with whoever my partner is. Perhaps it is my recognizing my own deficiency that has made me think I am just not meant to be married. But perhaps this is a self defeating thought, and by stopping this thought I am stopping the future being unmarried. If I think positive and I still have unfavourable outcome, at least I will know it is not due to road blocks I created.
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